Are you dreading an upcoming feedback conversation? You’re not alone—but you don’t have to stay stuck. Here’s how to recognise the signs of Feedback Dread and turn anxiety into assurance.
You feel a sense of dread thinking about offering feedback.
You keep delaying the conversation with creative excuses.
Your body reacts: racing heart, sweaty palms, restless nights.
You secretly hope the person will figure it out without you saying a word.
You imagine best- and worst-case feedback scenarios—and fixate on the worst.
You fear the conversation will damage the relationship.
Why This Happens: Feedback Dread stems from the brain's perception of a potential threat. The closer the conversation gets, the more intense this feeling can become.
Acknowledge the Feeling: Recognize dread as a natural signal from your brain trying to keep you safe.
Reframe the Fear: Ask yourself, “What specific outcome am I worried about?”
Press Pause: Give yourself permission to delay—but not avoid—the conversation.
Start with a Warm-Up Conversation: Set the stage for success by clarifying expectations, building psychological safety, and creating a supportive feedback environment.
Why the Warm-Up Matters: A well-structured Warm-Up Conversation reduces friction and increases trust. It’s your best tool for creating psychologically safe, open dialogue.
Imagine This: You’ve just finished a feedback conversation. Instead of relief from getting it “over with,” you feel proud. You supported someone’s growth with clarity and care—and strengthened your relationship in the process.
Let’s make feedback conversations something to look forward to—not fear.
Let’s reshape how you experience feedback—starting now.